This is one of my favorite dishes. You can bet every weekend you come over to my place, you’ll find stir fried liver served with Ugali and greens. Madam always loves when i cook for her this tasty meal.
1/2 kg liver, cut in to small thin slices
1 tbsp soy sauce
5 slices ginger, cut in to thin strips
5 cloves of garlic, chopped and crushed
2 large onions, cut in to rings
3 tomatoes, chopped
2 green peppers, chopped
2 coriander stems, chopped
2 carrots, chopped
2 tbsp cooking oil (if you have olive or sesame; the better)
How to make it
Coat the liver slices evenly with 1 tbsp of soy sauce in a bowl and leave for 10 minutes.
Heat 2 tbsp cooking oil in a saucepan
Place the onions in small batches on heated oil. Add the ginger and garlic then the liver and stir. Separate with turner so that they don’t stick to one another. Cook on one side first.
Flip the liver slices to other side. Cook till both surfaces of liver is cooked and slightly browned (from the soy sauce). Do not overcook.
Remove cooked liver from wok and place on a dish. Set aside.
Put all the veggies in the saucepan and stir fry for a few minutes till fragrant.
Mix all the seasonings in a cup and add water. Pour the paste slowly over the mixture and stir thoroughly. Do this in 2-3 batches.
Once the sauce thickens, off fire. Add the previously cooked liver slices back to the saucepan and stir evenly till liver are coated in sauce. Serve.
I believe the very first thing we should all do is just cope to the fact that it could be us.
Q: What if someone tells you that you’re being let go? What do you do and say at that awful moment?
I would suggest, keep your mouth shut and your thoughts to yourself. Ask questions, not necessarily against them, but certainly in your favor.
So don’t sign the severance package at that moment; find out what their reasoning was behind you being selected as someone to lay off.
HR and the “layoff managers” are war-gamed against a script because they need to protect themselves legally. If you only ask questions, in a really calm way, you can get them to move off-script.
And when they move off-script, they could say something that you can use in your favor. Not necessarily against them, but certainly in your favor.
What if you burst into tears?
I think that’s completely normal and natural. I think if you’re dealing with a humane terminating manager and a humane HR person, their hearts are breaking too. It’s just painful all around.
Is it O.K. to express that you think the layoff is unfair, if you think it really shouldn’t have been you?
Probably not. The reason why is that it makes no difference. They’re not suddenly going to press the rewind button and totally unlay you off.
It’s just going to make you look petulant, and it’s going to leave a bad taste in everybody’s mouth. And you’re going to look back and say, “Gosh, I wish I hadn’t said that.” It gets you nowhere, and dignity will get you everywhere.
Is there any point in writing down what’s been said to you?
Absolutely. In fact, even if what is being said to you seems innocuous, if you take that document to an attorney who looks it over and knows what he’s looking for, there could be something buried in that document that can give you leverage for a more substantial severance package or even a wrongful-termination suit.
It’s going to give you bargaining leverage, ultimately. And again, never sign the severance agreement right then and there.
It’s ridiculous that it takes you much longer to buy a car than it does to lose your job. Nobody ever expects anybody on a reasonable basis to sign any document under duress.
It’s completely realistic, reasonable to expect to take that document home or a copy of it so that you can look at it with your spouse, look at it with your attorney.
There are all sorts of things embedded in a severance package that you can negotiate to your favor, even if it means negotiating an extra month of health insurance.
Who do your files belong to? Are you allowed to take them?
No. Your files are company property. If you have extra time, if they give you a couple of weeks to tidy up business, you can probably use your contact list, because those are relationships that you carry with you, to let people know that you’re leaving.
You can set the tone for why you’re leaving without making you sound vindictive. But in terms of company property and documents and company secrets, those belong to the company, and you should leave them alone.
Should you tell everyone in the office what happened, or should you leave quietly?
It depends upon the company. If you leave under mysterious circumstances, people might think you got arrested!
I’m always one for being open and letting people know what happened. You can tell people you got laid off without sounding really venomous about it.
These are people you’re going to want to work with in your future, especially if you work in a very tight industry where people know each other for years and years.
They just cycle through the various companies. You’re going to see these people again. So the last thing you want is a reputation for being vicious
What do you tell your own kids?
Be honest with them at an age-appropriate level. Say good things about your company so that they don’t grow up thinking that employers are monsters.
Say good things about your job and how you felt about it while you were doing it. Invite them to participate in the new phase of the family life, without making them feel overburdened by a financial problem.
What if you think your dismissal is age discrimination? Is it worth going to a lawyer these days?
I think so. Go to somebody who’s an expert in employee law and see.
If you’re seeing that a whole layer of employees who happen to be graying at the temples are the ones who are being disappeared, you have yourself a class-action lawsuit, possibly, and that’s something worth exploring.
The attorney may say, “Not worth your effort.” But it’s better to make a decision based on information than just making assumptions.
Any tips about health insurance?
One of the experts that I talked to said that if you think you’re about to be laid off, get your physical done while your company coverage is still paying for it.
Get a recent document that says you are in great shape, so when the time comes for you to go out and get your own coverage, you have a document that’s new that you can show to insurance companies to prove that you’re a good health-insurance risk.
So there are alternatives. A lot of the associations are offering something. So there are ways of patching together coverage so you never have to be totally without.
Is it O.K. to take any job in the short run just to have money, or do you have to be discerning about it because of your résumé?
It depends upon how badly you need money. Don’t be precipitous if you don’t have to be. If you have to get new work right away, try to make it consulting work that’s at your level.
A great place for consulting work is the place that just laid you off. They need to get that work done; they just needed to trim the overhead. You can conceivably continue working at that company.
What do you tell a prospective employer about your layoff? How honest can you be?
I think you can be completely honest. In fact, in this phase, if you’re not, the employer is probably going to wonder.
Don’t lie. This is the era of the no-fault layoff. Anyone who judges you for having been laid off doesn’t know what they’re doing.
Your new in the office, trying to settle down and it’s rougher than you anticipated. Feeling like an outsider and you’re miserable. Who could blame you.
The previous job was fantastic, hoping you’ll have the same experience or even better. You love what you do, not minding the crazy hours it attracts.
It’s the emotional undercurrents, gossiping and backstabbing thickening the air that you find exhausting.You can’t seem to find your feet and get traction in your new environment. And people have started to notice and are making comments.
What the heck is going on here? Welcome to the world of office politics.
Here are tips to help you survive and thrive:-
Learn to read the company’s culture. How do people dress and speak? What is the company’s mission statement? How is it reflected in the workplace and in the treatment of employees? This should be the no. 1 thing in your mind.
Don’t complain, gossip or join in backstabbing conversations. Kvetching will get you nowhere. And this where most of us fail.
Form Strategic Alliances. Make yourself valuable to those with power, knowledge or tenure. Go out of your way to offer assistance. When you need help, you’ll have established a network of supporters. But ensure it doesn’t lead to an ass kisser.
Take notice of who performs well in your company. Observe their use of language, tone of voice, confidence level, and preparedness. Learn from their behavior and emulate it. Don’t go for the big L type.
Find a mentor – either inside or outside the company. A mentor can offer advice, counsel and act as a sounding board. Getting objective, professional support is crucial for shaping your career.
Think before you speak or act. One impulsive, off the cuff statement or act can significantly damage your career. Silence is golden, especially when you are angry, tired or at a company-sponsored social event. Take a chill pill instead.
I’m trying so desperately to open up my mind to you; to not filter out what my internal self finds unimportant or crazy because I am imperfect and broken.
I wish to find you. I am writing here to you to tell you that I open myself up to you, ready to do whatever you ask of me. I have understood that you have shown me things for a reason and that my ultimate path has yet to be fulfilled.
Yet I am lost. To claim I know what I am to do now would be a falsity. I have deciphered the visions you show me and I have understood the message, yet I feel a million miles away from your guidance.
God, I ask you now to reach out to me in a way I have not experienced before. I have felt your presence inside of me and I know that this is the time. I ask you to heal the fractures I have acquired from eons of aimless wandering. I ask you to energize my body, to calm my mind, and to purify both to better receive those that come in your name. I ask you to expand the unconsciousness that has guided me in this lifetime so very well. I ask you to calm the powers of chaos and destruction that frustrate me and keep me from your love and knowledge.
I am writing to you because I know you hear me. I can feel the stirring inside my chest and the buzzing inside my head. I can feel that my ultimate destiny is approaching fast and I beg of you to not let me pass it by. Call the ultimate truth to my attention and allow it to beckon me.
I am listening and I am finally ready to accept what I was created to achieve. I now surrender myself to you.