Being Thankful

Did you know that fully 85% of your happiness in life will come from your personal relationships. Your interaction and the time you spend with people you care about will the major source of the pleasure, enjoyment and satisfaction that you derive daily. The other 15% of your happiness will come from your accomplishments. Tonight before you go to bed ask yourself this, “what am i thankful for today” ? Well I’ll let you ponder on that one.

Perhaps the simplest way to make another person feel good about himself or herself is your continuous expressions of appreciation for everything that person does for you, large or small. Say “thank you” on every occasion. Thank your spouse for everything that he or she does for you. Thank your children for their cooperation and support in everything that they do around the house. Thank your friends for the smallest of kindnesses.

The more you thank other people for doing things for you, the more things those other people will want to do. Every time you thank another person, you cause that person to like themselves better. You raise their self-esteem and improve their self-image. You cause them to feel more important. You make them feel that what they did was valuable and worthwhile. You empower them.

And the wonderful thing about thanking other people is that, every time you say the words, “thank you” you like yourself better as well. You feel better inside. You feel happier and more content with yourself and life. You feel more fully integrated and positive about what you are doing. When you develop an attitude of gratitude that flows forth from you in all of your interactions with others, you will be amazed at how popular you will become and how eager others will be to help you in whatever you are doing.

By Viktor Musili Posted in My Life

Ready for Fatherhood?

As men near the stage of life where families and children become important, there can be lots of angst over whether now is the time to start a family.

Lets find out if you are emotionally ready;

  • Do you currently enjoy spending time with children?

You start noticing the little things about children, and they make you smile. The kids playing in the aisle at Nakumatt have been seriously distracting you from your shopping duties. You note crib and baby-monitor prices at the baby store without thinking. You enjoy and look forward to spending time with your friend’s baby, or your nephew, more than ever. You don’t mind their crying and whining as much as you used to, and so on. Chances are you want a kid.

  • The “one”

Ideally, your relationship should be long-term in order to raise a child (or children) together. Committed couples can usually discern for themselves when the best time to take the next step is, which for many is after marriage.

  • Have you set established your priorities?

As an individual, and before making yourself responsible for another human being’s life, make sure you are fulfilling your own expectations out of life. For example, if you want to be successful professionally, then attain financial stability first. Once you have a strong, loving relationship with a lady, the decision to bring a child into the world becomes simpler.

  • Don’t be misled

But before you rush off to the bedroom to start making babies, guard yourself against false leads. You may think that you’re ready, but if your feelings are more about you than the child, then that’s not right. If you feel there’s something missing in your life or you’re a single guy who needs a change, then a child is not necessarily the missing link. Perform a good evaluation of your own intentions before you commit.

Additionally, there are also signs that you are not ready for fatherhood, which may be interspersed with the above. If you’re having some of the following doubts, then perhaps you should put off your plans until you’re good and ready.

  • You aren’t committed to calming down

If you picture yourself putting the baby to bed and then heading out for a good dozen beers with the boys, then forget it. You can either ditch the partying or put off having a baby until you’re ready to do so. Sure, in the past you’ve been able to juggle school and partying, work and relationships, etc., but raising a child is one thing you can’t “juggle” with lots of recreation.


By Viktor Musili Posted in My Life

Judge not

I was shocked, confused, bewildered

As i entered Heaven’s door,

Not by the beauty of it all,

Nor the lights or the decor.

But it was the folks in Heaven

Who made me sputter and gasp

The thieves, the liars, the sinners,

The alcoholics and the trash.

There stood the kid from class seven

Who swiped my lunch money twice

Next to him was my old neighbor

Who never said anything nice.

Fred, who is always though

Was rotting away in hell,

Was sitting pretty on cloud nine,

Looking incredible well.

I nudged Jesus, ‘What’s the deal?

I would love to hear your take.

How would all these sinners get up here?

God must have made a mistake.

‘And why is everyone so quiet,

So somber – give me a clue’

‘Hush, child,’ he said,

‘they’re all in shock.

No once thought they’d be seeing you.’


Remember…Just going to church doesn’t make you a

Christian any more than standing in the garage makes you a car.

Every saint has a PAST…

Every sinner has a FUTURE!

Life with God is like unsharpened as no point!

By Viktor Musili Posted in My Life

I’d like to say it’s been a pleasure

It’s been a month now since my last post, guess i have been busy sitting behind that office desk with no time to smell the roses. But i must confess, i missed my favorite pastime.

By the way today is my birthday, just turned ** . ( Hears cheers from a distance )

Looking back one year ago, i had the worst birthday ever. Just ask my pals Dan and Alex. But guess what, now i can afford a BIG smile and i think I’ve added bit of weight.

Life hasn’t been the same again, i bet your asking yourself what the f* happened. Well that’s for another day. All i can say is i found happiness in little small town called Matiliku.

Am thankful for the gift of life, my family & friends who are always there for me, regardless of anything.

I love you all.

By Viktor Musili Posted in My Life

Laid Off ?

Q: What do to when you get laid off?

I believe the very first thing we should all do is just cope to the fact that it could be us.

Q: What if someone tells you that you’re being let go? What do you do and say at that awful moment?

I would suggest, keep your mouth shut and your thoughts to yourself. Ask questions, not necessarily against them, but certainly in your favor.
So don’t sign the severance package at that moment; find out what their reasoning was behind you being selected as someone to lay off.
HR and the “layoff managers” are war-gamed against a script because they need to protect themselves legally. If you only ask questions, in a really calm way, you can get them to move off-script.
And when they move off-script, they could say something that you can use in your favor. Not necessarily against them, but certainly in your favor.
What if you burst into tears?

I think that’s completely normal and natural. I think if you’re dealing with a humane terminating manager and a humane HR person, their hearts are breaking too. It’s just painful all around.

Is it O.K. to express that you think the layoff is unfair, if you think it really shouldn’t have been you?

Probably not. The reason why is that it makes no difference. They’re not suddenly going to press the rewind button and totally unlay you off.
It’s just going to make you look petulant, and it’s going to leave a bad taste in everybody’s mouth. And you’re going to look back and say, “Gosh, I wish I hadn’t said that.” It gets you nowhere, and dignity will get you everywhere.
Is there any point in writing down what’s been said to you?

Absolutely. In fact, even if what is being said to you seems innocuous, if you take that document to an attorney who looks it over and knows what he’s looking for, there could be something buried in that document that can give you leverage for a more substantial severance package or even a wrongful-termination suit.
It’s going to give you bargaining leverage, ultimately. And again, never sign the severance agreement right then and there.
It’s ridiculous that it takes you much longer to buy a car than it does to lose your job. Nobody ever expects anybody on a reasonable basis to sign any document under duress.
It’s completely realistic, reasonable to expect to take that document home or a copy of it so that you can look at it with your spouse, look at it with your attorney.
There are all sorts of things embedded in a severance package that you can negotiate to your favor, even if it means negotiating an extra month of health insurance.
Who do your files belong to? Are you allowed to take them?

No. Your files are company property. If you have extra time, if they give you a couple of weeks to tidy up business, you can probably use your contact list, because those are relationships that you carry with you, to let people know that you’re leaving.
You can set the tone for why you’re leaving without making you sound vindictive. But in terms of company property and documents and company secrets, those belong to the company, and you should leave them alone.
Should you tell everyone in the office what happened, or should you leave quietly?

It depends upon the company. If you leave under mysterious circumstances, people might think you got arrested!
I’m always one for being open and letting people know what happened. You can tell people you got laid off without sounding really venomous about it.
These are people you’re going to want to work with in your future, especially if you work in a very tight industry where people know each other for years and years.
They just cycle through the various companies. You’re going to see these people again. So the last thing you want is a reputation for being vicious
What do you tell your own kids?

Be honest with them at an age-appropriate level. Say good things about your company so that they don’t grow up thinking that employers are monsters.
Say good things about your job and how you felt about it while you were doing it. Invite them to participate in the new phase of the family life, without making them feel overburdened by a financial problem.

What if you think your dismissal is age discrimination? Is it worth going to a lawyer these days?

I think so. Go to somebody who’s an expert in employee law and see.

If you’re seeing that a whole layer of employees who happen to be graying at the temples are the ones who are being disappeared, you have yourself a class-action lawsuit, possibly, and that’s something worth exploring.

The attorney may say, “Not worth your effort.” But it’s better to make a decision based on information than just making assumptions.

Any tips about health insurance?

One of the experts that I talked to said that if you think you’re about to be laid off, get your physical done while your company coverage is still paying for it.

Get a recent document that says you are in great shape, so when the time comes for you to go out and get your own coverage, you have a document that’s new that you can show to insurance companies to prove that you’re a good health-insurance risk.

So there are alternatives. A lot of the associations are offering something. So there are ways of patching together coverage so you never have to be totally without.

Is it O.K. to take any job in the short run just to have money, or do you have to be discerning about it because of your résumé?

It depends upon how badly you need money. Don’t be precipitous if you don’t have to be. If you have to get new work right away, try to make it consulting work that’s at your level.

A great place for consulting work is the place that just laid you off. They need to get that work done; they just needed to trim the overhead. You can conceivably continue working at that company.

What do you tell a prospective employer about your layoff? How honest can you be?

I think you can be completely honest. In fact, in this phase, if you’re not, the employer is probably going to wonder.

Don’t lie. This is the era of the no-fault layoff. Anyone who judges you for having been laid off doesn’t know what they’re doing.

By Viktor Musili Posted in My Life